I have been reading and reading Brother Raymond Ducharme’s email of 23 December 2013 to “Benjmain” (pseudonym). The more I re-read andt ry to put my thoughts into words the more I am reminded that it is an exercise in futility – trying to make sense out of nonsense.
Anyway, in my “Bumps on balls” blog I did say I would make further comment. I am doing so now, albeit belatedly, and have decided to limit my comments to the follow paragraph:
“There are no excuses that stand in front of such an act as a sexual abuse. If we want to understand what happened then, we have to put ourselves in the shoes of Br. Lawrence and yours at that time. There, we are limited to what he recalls and what you recall about it. There is also a cluster of other matters involved here: sexual life, affective situation, past, personal psychology,…. “
(1) “There are no excuses that stand in front of such an act as a sexual abuse.”
True. Brother Ducharme would have been wise to leave it at that.
(2) “If we want to understand what happened then, we have to put ourselves in the shoes of Br. Lawrence and yours at that time”
Brother Ducharme tells Benjamin that in order to understand why Brother Lawrence raped him he, Benjamin, needs to put himself in Brother Lawrence’s shoes “at the time”? Asking the victim to put himself in the shoes of his molester? That will somehow help Benjamin understand why this Roman Catholic Brother sodomised him in the chapel?
This defies logic! It is beyond insanity. It’s sick.
As for telling Benjamin to put himself in his own shoes when he as an 11-year-old was sodomised by Brother Lawrence, well, really – Benjamin has lived in the shoes of that child for the past 50 years. He is in those shoes day after day after day. He doesn’t have to put himself in his own shoes. He lives in them.
This is such nonsense. Such sick sick sick nonsense.
(3) “we are limited to what he recalls and what you recall about it”
How much do “we” need to know? Brother Lawrence sodomised/raped/molested/sexually abused an 11-year-old Jewish boy, and he admitted he did so.
(4) “There is also a cluster of other matters involved here: sexual life, affective situation, past, personal psychology,….”
More nonsense which sounds mighty like we’re on the verge of a cluster of excuses
As for all the business about celibacy and chastity I must point out in all fairness that Benjamin posed questions in that regard prompting the pathetic and muddled remainder of the email.
Enough for now,