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 My husband is back to work today – life is about to return to “normal.”  It will however be slightly different ‘normal” for me.  I gave up smoking for the new year.  I honestly did 🙂  Those who know me know that that is one major milestone.  I enjoyed my ‘puffs.’   I thoroughly enjoyed my ‘puffs.’  And I found that in recent years I met the nicest people huddled together outside whatever building in the driving rain or blowing snow to have a quick ‘puff.’  Things have changed since the days of happy memory (for me) when doctors and nurses smoked at the nursing stations,  hospitals routinely kitted every bedside unit with an ashtray, and patients and/or visitors freely smoked at bedsides of every hospital across the country.

Anyway, bottom line –  I have stopped smoking.  Say a prayer that I prevail.  I believe my biggest challenge will be finding something to replace the puff forever burning itself out at my elbow as I fiddle away on the computer 🙂 


I may not have blogged but I have been keeping an eye on the comments over the past few days.  Chris, I am so sorry to hear that your parents are in poor health, but sorrier yet that they have been left in a spiritual abyss.   This is yet another reminder of the terrible spiritual damage wrought on the Catholic faithful by clerical molesters.

All Catholics should come the end of their lives on this earth secure in the knowledge of what must done to avoid Hell and to try to achieve eternity with God.  We call it The Four Last Things:  Death, Judgement, Heaven and Hell.

Chris, pray for you parents.  Now more than ever they need your prayers. 

I ask everyone to please pray for Chris and for his parents.  I  believe that God hears our prayers, and that He alone can take a difficult situation like this and make it right. 


There have been some deep and profound thoughts expressed in comments posted over the Christmas holidays.  John-Derek, Michael, Chris, Tony – be assured that people are reading and pondering what you have to say.  I have been deeply touched by your comments – I have had people tell me in person that they were deeply moved by these blogs.  I know without a doubt that victims who are trying to summon the courage to come draw strength from all of you. 


I have a few comments to respond to, and a number of calls to make to check for pending court dates, and new information to post. 

2011 is here.  By the grace of God it will be a good year, and by good I simply mean one in which victims speak up and the rot is exposed.

Enough for now


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2 Responses to 2011

  1. John Mac Donald says:

    Happy Nrw Year to all.

    Sylvia I to have been watching and reading the comments and have been deeply touched and deep in thought on those comments. It does truly show just how deeply we have been affected in all areas of our lives.

    I to watched my father pass a few years back, a man who attended church everyday throughout his life. At the end he had quit attending masses each morning, I never questioned him on this, but I had the feeling why. I found out after he had passed that he had said to a friend of his that if he had one thing that he wished that he had done in his life it was to break every bone in the body of the priest who had abused his son.

    Sylvia, you hope that it a good year and that victims speak out and expose the rot. I feel, that the rot has been exposed and will continue to be exposed, the silence has been broken and the rot will continue to be exposed. My wish for this year is quite simple……..A box of Q-Tips..for the judges, the crowns’, the police and most importantly..THE CHURCH……..it is time to start listening.

    John Mac Donald

  2. Michel B. says:

    Came accross this book review, not sure how good it is just passing it on…

    Recovering the Soul after Religious Abuse: The Dark Heaven of Recovery by Mikele Rauch

    This important resource for clergy abuse survivors and allies in healing speaks about he impact of religious abuse not only on the psyche but the soul, and how to recover the deepest parts of the self, rediscover the sacred within or without the institutions of religion, and create meaning again.

    There are powerful interviews with persons from all five religions, who were survivors of sexual, physical and ritual abuse, as well as homophobia, racism, sexism and misogyny in religious cultures. It looks at shame and its place in individual development and religious community. Healing the Soul explores leadership and narcissism in religious clergy, especially the powerful and potential dangerous connection between spiritual guide and those he or she serves. There is also a special section for Buddhist and Hindus about the guru disciple relationship and how abuses happen there. The book grapples with the paradox of “holiness” and spiritual stature, and how persons with such stature still are capable of doing harm.

    Healing the Soul has both a personal story and a larger viewpoint, clinically and spiritually, about hope and possibilities in the face of darkness and alienation.

    It is a must-read book for recovering Christians, Jews, Muslims, Hindus, Buddhists, those who have suffered in cults, and for the clinicians and clergy who work with them.

    Mikele Rauch has treated survivors of religious and clergy abuse across the gamut of religions. She is a member of the Core Facilitator Team for the MaleSurvivor.org Weekends of Recovery for men who are survivors of sexual and clergy abuse, and has served on the Clergy Sexual Abuse Victim’s Rights Committee of Boston. She has written for CANDID, the Missouri Review, the National Catholic Reporter, Cross Currents Magazine, Healing Ministry, and The New Therapist Magazine.

    You can purchase these books by going through our Amazon Picks on our New Films and Books section of our website: http://www.bigvoicepictures.com/new-films/

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