How many watched Oprah?
Will it make a difference?
I would love to hear people’s thoughts.
Here’s a few of mine….
I think it may make a difference. Barring attendance at a sex abuse trial it’s seldom that the general public can see and hear grown men recounting the horrors of the abuse they endured as children.
As I watched I was reminded that the victims who took the stand at the inquiry weren’t allowed to testify to the specifics of their abuse. That I felt was a terrible disservice to both the victims and the mandate of the inquiry – flawed as it was – to inquire into the institutional response to historical allegations of abuse.
The response to allegations means nothing if one doesn’t know precisely what happened to those young lads to whom authorities all too frequently turned a blind eye. And, as far as I’m concerned it’s one thing to read what a victim may have had to say of his abuse, it’s quite another to watch him, and to hear him, as he recounts the horror. There is a look, and a tone, and a posture – I don’t know quite what it is, but it’s there, I’ve come to recognize it as a mark of male victims. The shame is palpable. I’ve seen it time and again when victims testify at trial. I saw it again on the Oprah show.
I personally was happy to see that a segment of the show focused briefly on the fact that the boy-victim is betrayed by his biological make-up. His body becomes aroused, even though he is repulsed by what is being done to him and wants nothing to do with it, his body responds to the unwanted sexual overtures. And, yes, as was noted, there are often pleasurable feelings associated with the arousal. The disdain for the abuse coupled with unbidden arousal and mysterious feelings of pleasure create immense confusion and a lifelong shame for that little boy.
I thought it was great to hear that discussed.
These are things people need to understand. And yes, these are things victims need to understand. The shame belongs to the molester.
So, although the one hour show seemed to be over and done with in the twinkle of an eye, I think it was well done. I think it may have a profound impact. I think and hope and pray that it may give thousands of male victims cause to summon the courage to come forward. And I think and hope and pray that it may have been one huge step in educating the public as to the unique difficulties faced by young boys who are sexually abused.
Hats off to Oprah. I honestly never watch her show. It’s just not my thing. But, I watched it yesterday. All I can say is hats off to Oprah. And, yes, hats off to the 200 men who filled the studio. A remarkable moment. A huge reminder to all male victims that there is no shame in being a victim. The shame is not yours. Never ever forget that. Believe it. The shame belongs to your molester AND to those who covered up on his behalf.
I confess that I couldn’t help but wonder if Justice Normand Glaude was watching?
Ah, the wonders of the internet. We have seen, witness the case of Canada’s fugitive Oblate priest Father Eric Dejaeger,that slowly but surely the internet is making the world a smaller place for molesters to hide.
We have seen, witness the case of our abdicating and disappearing Bishop James Wingle, that the internet gives us eyes across the globe
And now we see, witness the case of Father Phillip Jacobs, that slowly but surely the internet is ensuring that dirty little secrets once tucked away in one little corner of the world can now reach the farthest corners of the earth.
How amazing is it that we can communicate with people in Saudi Arabiaabout Father Phillip Jacobs years at Jubail University College?
Donald Grecco is out and about, ….somewhere.
Does he have his passport? I hope not.
Are there conditions attached to his current state of freedom? I hope so.
Can he reside with convicted molester Father James Kneale? I trust not.
Where is he staying? I haven’t a clue. No one has a clue. A convicted child molester who already breached his bail is out and about awaiting sentencing and his whereabouts are top secret.
This is Canada.
Note the following article:
05 November 2010: Priest released from custody
Note that the Crown decided Grecco had served a “long time” on a “simple” breach.
One month? A long time?
Note too that Grecco still must return to Belleville court 15 December 2010 to learn his fate on the breach offence!
Small wonder we get confused with courtroom goings on. I don’t know if Grecco has even been found guilty on the breach offence yet, but I do know that he hasn’t been sentenced. How then can the Crown conclude that he should be let loose because the month he has served is a “long” time?
Enough for now,