December 21, 2015
By Brock Weir
As she sat in the pews of Our Lady of Grace Catholic Church, Barb Collins says she saw something special in the man leading the service.
The Chief Operating Officer of Toronto’s Humber River Regional Hospital was struck by the way Father Joe Gorman attracted people. It’s a skill, she says, that not everybody had, and he had it in spades.
But Gorman’s time at the helm of Our Lady of Grace (OLG) was cut short earlier this year after Cardinal Thomas Collins asked Gorman to step away from the church for a time citing “financial irregularities” and “involvement in marriages not sanctioned by the Catholic Church.”
According to the Archdiocese of Toronto, the marriage in question involved Gorman presiding over a ceremony where one of the individuals had been previously married and had not received the required annulment within the Catholic Church – and in an Anglican chapel.
The “financial irregularities” involved a special collection for a local charity, the Rose of Sharon Services for Young Mothers, which did not follow the guidelines of the Archdiocese.
After a couple of months of consideration, and considerable prayer, Gorman announced his decision to leave the Priesthood.
While many parishioners expressed anger over the Archdiocese’s treatment of Gorman, for Ms. Collins, this eventually gave way to a sense of opportunity.
Gorman now serves at Humber River Regional Health Centre as the Director of Bioethics, Ethics and Spiritual Care.
“Healthcare is all about communication: families communicating with our staff, communicating with our physicians, and I really believe that is a real strength of his,” says Ms. Collins. “He cares about people, he wants them to be happy, and he communicates beautifully.”
Ms. Collins was on hand at King Richard’s English Pub recently, along with hundreds of OLG parishioners and members of the Aurora and Newmarket communities at large, for a reunion with Gorman and to collect much needed grocery cards, gift cards, and cash for Rose of Sharon and Southlake Regional Health Centre.
Restaurant owner Tim Brochu, a 10-year parishioner at OLG, had no hesitation in turning over the entire pub to Mr. Gorman for the event.
It was a way to foster the continued links between Mr. Gorman and the community but, in Mr. Brochu’s view, these links have never been broken.
“I was an altar boy at the age of five and there was always this weird connection with the church as far as I had to go and my parents making me go,” said Mr. Brochu. “When we moved here from Quebec, we went to church and I helped out Father Tim and everyone else, but I always felt like I had to go to church because of who I was.
“When Joe came on board, it wasn’t a chore anymore. As an usher, we had to set up chairs outside for people. We had to talk about putting TVs in the lobby and stuff like that. It was so different than I have ever experienced. Joe is still very viable in Town and involved here in Aurora and Newmarket. The turnout of people is just unreal. We are at capacity, the box is beyond full, and we hope it is an annual thing.”
These were sentiments echoed throughout the bar as the evening progressed.
In addition to representatives from Humber River, the event also had healthy representation from Southlake Regional Health Centre, Microsoft, and the Rice Group, in addition to Councillor John Abel, former MPP Frank Klees, and former councillor Don Constable.
Like Mr. Brochu, Mr. Constable’s interest in Our Lady of Grace was also reinvigorated by Mr. Gorman.
“He has a way of cutting not only through the red tape, but the bull,” said Mr. Constable. “He never judges people, he’s caring, and my closest link to Joe is I have a niece who lives in Newmarket and she lives next to Joe’s parents. Seven or eight years ago, she was diagnosed with osteosarcoma and they wanted to take her leg off. Fortunately, she didn’t lose her leg, she got through the cancer, and Joe is still picking her up on Friday and taking her to her swimming therapy.
“Joe has no more time to do that than anybody else, but he does it. He even takes Cameron, her little brother, and that is the thing I love about Joe. I didn’t know enough about Fr. Joe the Priest because I have been in the church off and on for years. The last time I had been there, Fr. Don was there, who I liked because he was a no bullshit kind of guy. That’s what I liked about Joe. He is still spiritual, but he had love and compassion and brought people together.”
Around the Christmas season, there is no greater cause than to ensure people in the community have what many of us take for granted, said Mr. Klees, and social issues are an area Mr. Gorman has shown “tremendous leadership” over the years.
“He expresses what many people would like to express but can’t,” said Mr. Klees. “That is a love of community, a love of people, and he embodies that. I believe his influence in the community is going to continue for many, many years because he has established credibility, he has established the trust, and people are here for two reasons; Joe and the cause he represents tonight.”
Added Mary Rice: “The priest we have now is a wonderful man, don’t get me wrong, but I think Joe has a place in all of our hearts.”
My family hopes the best for Joe Gorman, my mom got very ill in the church recently and the new priest who said he was observing all of us, published a bulletin and made comments directed to me about the handling of my mom’s health crisis, the cardiologist
Cannot believe their attitude, apparently, when ,y mom had “no pulse” instead of doing the protocol of Red Cross, I should have walked to the back of the church and looked for the priest & said, we need competent medical personnel, despite that My mom was dying & God forbid I interrupted their mass to plead for help is irrelevant! Actually, a Deacon was rather amused on the alter in my distress the same Deacon that thought it was funny when Joe Gorman left the church……cannot believe the insensitive behaviour actually doctors can’t either I have emailed the cardinal, doubt we will get a reply, the church covered up pedophiles so why would they be concerned with this…..they would if I went to a lawyer though, that is what the church only cares about, not people’s safety, well being! How dare I plead for help when my mom had no pulse was dying, apparently I should have seaked out the priest and said, we need a competent medical personnel, by this time my mom would have been dead but do the church care, no they actually said in the bulletin, my actions made my mom’s situation a spcticle and disrupted the mass……I cannot believe this, “when someone has no pulse seconds and minutes count….I loved my faith all my life but now my family feels we should turn away from the church, to think innocent children were abuses and the hierarchy turned a blind eye!
I want to go public with this….this is not Jesus’ way
I’m sorry Cindy, it sounds like it was a scary situation for you, but I had to look up the bulletin to try to find out what you are talking about. Here is column from the April 30th May 1st 2016 Our Lady of Grace, Aurora bulletin:
I still don’t understand what exactly happened. I pray that your mother is recovering.
As an aside, I have been at Masses where someone collapsed, but was breathing and had a pulse. An ambulance was called – the stretcher was brought into the church and the person was taken to hospital. Mass continued throughout, – but at no time was there a sense that the woman was dying and in need of ‘Last Rights.’
Yes, we didn’t expect or want the mass to stop, it would have been more embarrassing, what the priest is referring to was the one using hand gesturs which was me, I could not leave my mom and go to the back of the church to ask for a “competent medical professional. Also, the ushers were wonderful and also the parishioner that came to our aid. We just feel upset because I was in a panic (I wasn’t yelling I was asking people around me to help me). I certainly was not making a spectacle of my mother’s illness it was an emergency and I certainly would not be leaving her side to tell the priest my mom doesn’t have a pulse. Knowing CPR you are trained to stay with the person and obtain help from others. We are thankful for the kindness of the parishioners and ushers, but do not feel it was necessary to this right up on a bulletin. Aurora is a small town and this bulletin is read by many. No names were mentioned but it was a dig at me because I was very scared. Anyways, we won’t be returning back, the archdiocese must have searched for the most insensitive priest in Toronto most likely because people defending Joe Gorman and they didn’t like that (the church)…..Thanks for your reply.